It is fun Friday, however we will talk book this morning. Let me share my limited knowledge on that thing called “self-esteem”. It is important that I share with you – it cannot be covered in one day – as always, please note we jump in between me simply ranting for a couple of days (as someone said I go bonkers), and obviously when I receive a request to speak about something. And today is that day.
We will start with the importance of self-esteem:
How we feel about ourselves crucially affects the virtually every aspect of our experience, from the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to the way we operate as parents, to how high in life we are likely to rise.
Our responses to events are shaped by who and what we think we are. The dramas in our lives are the reflections of our most private visions of ourselves. Yeah, I know you don’t want to believe me, but I assure you, in some form there is truth.
Thus, self-esteem is the key to success or failure. Most things in life can be traced back to low self-esteem. Of all the judgments we pass, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves. Positive self-esteem is a cardinal requirement for a fulfilling life.
I am very happy for the people out there that do not suffer a low self-esteem. I am also happy for those that say they never do… But I do want to challenge you in looking at the different aspects of what makes you who you are. And then obviously we have those that say it can be fixed within a couple of weeks – good luck with that, as I am still ten years later, working on some aspects of myself that has low-self-esteem.
What is self-esteem? It has two components; a feeling of personal competence and a feeling of personal worth. In other words, self-esteem is the sum of self-confidence and SELF-RESPECT.
It reflects your implicit judgement of your ABILITY to COPE with the challenges of your life – to understand and to master all your “problems” – of your right to be happy – to respect and STAND UP for your interests and needs…
One can guess that we have those that “suffer: high self-esteem always confidently appropriate to life, that is competent and worthy in the sense indicated.
Low – feeling inappropriate to life; wrong, not about this issue or that, but WRONG AS A PERSON (how many of you say at times, I don’t know what is wrong with me….)
Ah and then, the “normal peeps 😊
Average self-esteem – this is to fluctuate between feeling appropriate and inappropriate, right and wrong as a person, and to manifest these inconsistencies in BEHAVIOR – sometimes ACTING WISELY, and sometimes acting very FOOLISHLY – thereby reinforcing the uncertainty…
It feels like I have left you hanging high and dry today – feels like there is something more to be said, however, if we venture don the rabbit hole today, you will be reading until Monday morning…
I tell you again – in my limited knowledge and acquired experience underscored by qualification in some fields…
It is perfectly fine, to be NOT FINE. And don’t let anyone take your voice for what you believe in.