Greetings Beautiful readers, today, I shall chirp in the words of another – my perception is not yours, however it may grant a different view on viewing something… I know many of us have been struggling emotionally of late, and whether you believe in it or not, I think the planets are not only playing, but have placed us in a ping-ball machine… and WHAM, off we go once again, trying so hard, not to fall down the “hole… yes… right let us start.
Acceptance is the road to all change. If resisting has failed and frustrated you, try to accept what is. As hard as it is to believe, acceptance can open different opportunities for change than resistance.
“You may think that I am trying to tell you be all positive and fluff. No, I am not. Believe when I say, I have lived a life of resistance, of force, of steam rolling ahead, no matter the cost to myself, or those around me, as my mind said – THIS IS WHAT I WANT, but what I needed was so different. I have spoken so many times about standing still, and trying to accept what is, and you do not have to tell me, how difficult this ridiculously one word is “acceptance”.”
Struggling can sometimes swallow us even deeper into the quicksand of our problems. Difficult problems take time to resolve. The more frantically you pick at knots, the more entangled they can become. To untangle yourself try relaxing.
“Oh, but I have the patience to untangle the knots, the minds says, look, look I can hold the knots the 7-year-old makes, and have the patience to sit and untangle until the necklace, or the piece of yarn is untangled… but what has happened deep inside me… there had been focus, there had been the motivation to use the skill and ability of patience to sit with this knot. Not to struggle against it, but to breathe through the process of little by little, it could be free…”
Gently and patiently work with your difficulties and in time you will be freed from what now seems impossible.
“This takes time. Yes, TIME – something we all state we do not have. But when will you make the time, to sit with YOURSELF, to allow each and every experience you have had in your life to wash over you, instead of wanting to FIX it, FIX other people, they are not broken cars, you do not have to fix them, work on yourself… sit with yourself… breathe with intent, place within ourselves the need, to create and allow that which no longer serves you, to wash away… Patience, time… working constructively to change, to be more, to be better… And the beautiful part of life is that each time you allow this space within yourself you become stronger in facing the next.”
You are being called to heal yourself, not to agonize over your mistakes. Quit overthinking; this is what surrendering really means. Don’t focus on your problems and don’t obsess about “fixing” things. Avoid forcing “positive thinking.
“Mistakes – do you know that I am proud of every crappy choice I have made, and I am damn sure I will have many more in the future, in hope that I will gain the knowledge to learn faster. I no longer want to “fix” things, not humans, not anyone that does not have the ability or the consciousness to allow the ‘mistakes’ they have made to turn into lessons. Oh I hear so many uhm’s and awh’s right now… ‘avoid forcing positive thinking’? are you a tad daft? Yes, maybe I am – maybe I have reached the beauty of acceptance at last, maybe I have learned that no matter what, life will be as it should be, when it needs to be… It does not mean I am not a positive person, by heavens, if I was not, I would have been worm food long ago, but I will not force my vessel, my mind, my soul to pretend to be something it is not feeling. I will live in truth, I will be in the moment, and I will allow the me to what it needs to be.”
These thoughts can be psychological irritants. Just leave yourself alone! When you pick at things, they never heal. Simply relax and give yourself some time.
“See this above – I have hundreds of people disagreeing with me about this particular statement, however proven scientifically – I want to add, leave others alone too!!! We have the right to voice, to moan, to say (in love and respect) how we feel. We so do, in the moment, no one can tell you, oh stop being so negative… maybe in my little bubble of perfection I have created, they are simply feeling this screaming within themselves… maybe they are forcing this on themselves, pretending the moon is made of cheese and the world is a happy place all the time… this is not how you heal. One does not stick a bandage over a gaping hole without treating it. Without checking on it ever so now and again. Think about it, you can and will in the end face worse issues.
Allow that space, go worth and give yourself the time – everyday. Give yourself the gift of space and time, for the wounds and the patience to help it heal…