I am not using my own words this morning… after a session with a client yesterday, I stood back and for a while wondered if the session was for her, or more for me. I have not reached the conclusion, however still “feeling” and processing the exchange of energy yesterday… It was good, it was great – I felt better… 😊
I have shared the following with all of you over a year ago, seems the memory does work sometimes. My “coach” hat is on this morning. Brace yourselves.
Imagine a relationship where the aim is to listen to – and focus only on – YOU, on your goals and dreams, on what may help you achieve those goals.
Imagine someone who is intent on UNDERSTANDING all that you communicate – who tunes in:
*not just to your words but what’s behind them and what’s lying in the spaces in between those words;
*to the language of your body;
*to the nuances of your voice;
*to your views about HOW YOU are REALLY FEELING
*to the best aspects of you, even when you can’t see them in yourself;
*to what you believe about yourself; and
*to what you truly want in your life.
Imagine someone who will work WITH you and FOR YOU in:
*planning how to reach each dream and goal
*keeping you moving forward towards those goals
Imagine a relationship with someone who:
*is totally curios about your dreams and aspirations and wanting to help get you there;
*REALLY want to know what makes you “tick”
*can help you identify and work with your personal values;
*wants to live in accordance with YOUR passions
*is sometimes more certain about – and focused on – achieving YOUR aspirations than you are….
Imagine a relationship:
*Someone to celebrate your victories with and help you learn from the setbacks.
Imagine a relationship with someone who:
*will absolutely tell you the truth about where you are strong
*will absolutely tell you the truth about where you sell yourself short
*knows you can handle it and knows that’s what you want; and
* sees how BIG you can be and constantly holds that big image up for you to see – even when you can’t hold it for yourself.
Imagine someone who listens to you:
*without judgement, allowing you to SHOW EMOTION;
*in a way that shows acceptance of you without analysing you;
*whenever you just feel like talking;
*when you feel you have just made a mess of things; and
*when you’ve enjoyed great success
Imagine a relationship where you FINALLY break free of those self-limiting conversations you’ve been having over the years, where the voices of self-sabotage are simply recognised for what they are and the powerful part of YOU is always encouraged. This is the place you visit regularly and consistently… to consolidate, to integrate, find your inspiration and to push on.
Many may say today, that the partner in our lives are to be this person, others may say, they have this in a friend or a family member. It is a huge responsibility to carry, don’t you think? In the last year, many have started the process, and for whatever the reasoning, stopped. Maybe the self-work aspect was to painful, or not feeling comfortable enough to ask why we are doing something. Or maybe the individual was not ready to change the behavioural aspect that created the limitations in the first place.
I know, I am not everybody’s cuppa tea, I tend to think I am an acquired taste… That I wear proudly. Judged and misunderstood most of my life, seeing the world differently than majority of the people. Constantly questioning, aiming for understanding, and being honest enough to state when I do not, when I have reached a wall within my intellectual facet.
Some people have said that I am going bonkers, not going, I am 😊 Besides my world crumbling around me, with my beloved felines crossing the bridge, other health issues, more so life issues – as we all have, most of the time. I have learned, and I have evolved to a place where I am the person imagined above.
And that, can never be taken away.
